It is wrong to explode and just go off on everybody, and it is harmful to repress it, but there is a healthy alternative, and that’s manage it.

Anger needs to be defined.  That may sound a bit silly, as most people think they know why they’re angry, but many times we fail to really address the root cause of our anger.  Words of anger toward those in our immediate family may be triggered by some minor thing, when our real anger is something that happened at work.  Is the anger we are feeling really anger, or is anger merely a substitue for some other emotion that we feel less comfortable expressing?

If we do have justifiable anger, then its expression needs to be properly expressed.  A good way to begin is to determine exactly what it would take for our anger to be resolved.  Would an apology from another person do it?  We may not be able to secure that, but at least, if we know what we’re after, we can approach it in a much more effective way.  A hostle attack on another person very seldom produces results that we really want.  On the other hand, expressing to the other person how we feel, as a result of whatever happened, may yield wonderful results.

Don’t be a time-bomb always ready to explode, and don’t simply repress your anger and carry it around with you.  It will soon become bitterness, may lead to depression, and it will eat you up.