How To Deal With Difficult People

You can’t avoid it. Some people are just difficult. We all know down in our soul that we need to try and be redemptiive.

There are two biblical principles of which we need to be reminded: Pray for difficult people. Jesus said, “Pray for those who persecute you.” Application can be made to people of any level of difficulty. Secondly, overcome evil with good. Be kind to the person who is not kind to you.

Sometimes, you may need to confront a difficult person. When doing so, try to avoid using accusitory words. Instead of telling them what they do that you don’t appreciate, try telling them how you feel when they do those things. For example, “I feel unimportant when you say sarcastic things about me.” It requires some thinking on your part, but if you can master this technique, it will take the other person off the defensive.

There are times when you may be confronted by a difficult person, and that person may not be trying to use any diplomacy with you. This is a time to remember that the Christian is not ruled by his old nature, but by the enabling power of the Holy Spirit to obey the word of God. It is a good idea to ask the confrontational individual what he/she would like for you to do in order to make the situation better. If the request is completely unreasonable, try and explain why you are unable to do that, and ask if there is any compromise that could be agreed upon.

In the final analysis, distance between the difficult person and yourself may be the answer, but don’t make it the first answer. The Bible says, “As much as it is possible, live at peace with all men.” As Christians, we are to always be ready for reconciliation.

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